I Held Out for as Long as I Could

So this happened.


Beta wasn’t scheduled until Tuesday, but I broke down and emailed my nurse yesterday, begging her to let me move the blood test up. She agreed, so my beta is tomorrow morning (when I will be 10 days post a 5 day transfer, or 15 days past ovulation).  I guess that makes me officially 4 weeks pregnant today.

I don’t really know what to think or how to act. I’m excited, of course, but I’m also scared out of my mind. There’s a large part of me that feels detached, like this is happening to someone else. I feel like I’m watching a movie, sitting back and saying, “Huh. Well, that’s interesting”. Tammy suggested I feel this way because I’m scared it won’t work out, that I’ll lose this pregnancy like I lost the first one. She may be right. Which is why I wanted to move the beta test up. A strong beta number will help to ease my mind (a tiny bit). And if it’s strong, I’ll worry about the second beta doubling appropriately. And then I’ll worry about the 6 week ultrasound to see a heartbeat.

I told a friend of mine yesterday that I was pregnant. He responded that since I was doing IVF, he didn’t realize it was a question if I was or wasn’t, that he thought it was a “done deal”.

HAHAHAH! At “done deal”!!!! OMG. Wiping away tears of laughter (and a little bit of bitterness). Don’t I fucking wish it was that simple. Take some drugs, get lots of beautiful embryos, pop one or two or three back in, and just wait to find out how many! Then have a blissful, worry free pregnancy, a textbook delivery, and a happy & healthy baby.

God. I fucking wish.

Anyone have suggestions about how to be calm/happy/enjoy the moment while I wait for my beta number?


Edited to Add: Sorry the bottom test is so yellow. That’s disgusting. No idea why it’s so yellow (I did pee on it, but why has it gotten so yellow? Barf.) Also, I cropped the picture to take out the pee stick part. There were droplets (DROPLETS) visible, and I do have some pride.

33 thoughts on “I Held Out for as Long as I Could

  1. Truly, a huge congratulations to you and Tammy! I’m so glad that your cycle worked out, and I’ll keep my fingers crossed for strong betas and a great ultrasound result. Congratulations again!

  2. This is so awesome! Congratulations! I don’t blame you one bit for feeling scared and detached. Wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months!

  3. I was in the same boat. I lost my first two pretty early, and am 17w along now. I just tried to remind myself that all I could do was take my meds and try to stay relaxed. Whatever is going to happen is going to happen, and stressing yourself isn’t doing you or the baby any favors. That said, I didn’t really relax until I made it past the first sonogram (and then maybe the second and third, haha). I still have little moments where I panic, but I decided to just be excited and finally celebrate this pregnancy. Congratulations!!

  4. YAY!!! Congratulations, this is such great news! I know nothing would make me not worry, other than time, so I don’t have any advice there. Just don’t forget how amazing this is, underneath all that anxiety. So happy for you 🙂

  5. AMAZING!! Such brilliant news, I know you must be scared but try to enjoy xx
    I’ve also had people think you just ‘get a baby’ if you have IVF! I think this should be implemented immediately!

  6. OOOO.MMMMMM.GGGGGG….. CONGRATULATIONS. and apologies for the ridiculous delay in saying so. So pleased for you… I now need to go back and read all the following posts!! xx

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