Tammy did not get that job that would have required us to move, after three rounds of interviews. On one hand, I’m incredibly relieved that moving is no longer on the table (for now), especially because my parents are closing on a house in our neighborhood on Friday. On the other hand, I had worked myself around to a place where I could view moving as an adventure and an opportunity for us, and a chance for me to stay at home with the baby in January.
Tammy’s getting more and more excited about having a baby. As she puts it “my excitement is directly proportional to the size of your belly”. Even I can’t deny that I have a distinct bump that can only mean one thing. Random people have been more comfortable coming right out and asking me if I am pregnant, which is oddly discomforting. Saying yes feels almost…embarrassing, like I’ve been caught with my hand in the cookie jar. Or like a teenager caught smoking or something.The flip side to this embarrassment is that I’ve become much more comfortable talking about the work it took for us to get pregnant. I drop IVF and frozen embryos into discussions of pregnancy and siblings like it’s no big deal at all. Look at me, normalizing IF and shit.
Speaking of normalizing, I’ve been working on acting like a normal pregnant lady who’s relatively assured of a baby at the end of this process. Tammy’s been painting the baby room, and we’re planning what furniture to buy. I’ve been researching day care options (OMFG expensive). I’m planning meals to make and freeze for the early days after the baby’s born and I even made my first one: tomato soup from Smitten Kitchen. I’ve made the recipe a few times before, but this was my first time making it with fresh tomatoes from my mom’s garden. I did the whole blanch and shock thing to get the skins off easily, which worked like a charm. The fresh tomatoes (as opposed to canned) made the soup taste much more…tomato-y, if you know what I mean. Not a bad thing, just an observation.
I’m planning to make a few more soups (potato, broccoli cheese) and casserole type things (lasagna (don’t have a link to the vegan recipe I use), chicken pot pie (again, don’t have a link but it’s from here, which I highly, highly recommend). Any other suggestions, especially healthy suggestions (note my decidedly unhealthy options above) for freezer meals? Keep in mind that I’m vegetarian and Tammy’s vegan, but I’m pretty good at veganizing recipes (i.e. subbing veggies stock for chicken stock, faux meet for real meet, almond/soy/rice/etc milk for cow’s milk, etc).
I have a few posts rattling around in my brain but the biggest one is about religion and faith*. So, obviously a very light post that is a breeze to write. Another one is my struggle to be sensitive to people trying so hard to get pregnant while celebrating my own pregnancy. So, also quite fun and light. Slightly less heavy is the post on the second parent adoption proceedings that Tammy will go through after the baby is born.
Happy Fall, everybody.
*Working title: “On Why I Burst Into Tears When Discussing God and Death, or Spiritual Malaise”
We’re also vegetarian and beginning the cooking/freezing adventure! Do you have any of the Moosewood cookbooks? They’re my favourites, and have plenty of good things to freeze.
Also, I totally feel weird/embarrased every time somebody comments on pregnancy.
You’re an IF hero! Go Sarah!
Oh ps. Six sisters has a ton of frozen crock pot meals. I don’t have the link on me but you can Google it I’m sure. 🙂
Glad that you are getting excited for the baby and doing all the normal pregnant lady things. Sounds like Tammy is getting excited too – both of you working on getting a nursery ready, how wonderful. IF denies us all so many normal experiences with regards to babies and childbearing, I’m glad you are getting to experience some of those!
The soup sounds really tasty…may have to try out some of those recipes.
vegan lasagna? i’d love to have that recipe (i’m not vegan but my mother is). also, i’m happy your belly is growing and not shying away from discussing fertility. your story is so amazing and inspirational.
Love it. Also, check out post punk kitchen if you don’t already for great vegan recipes and Oh She Glows for some good cheat recipes (that is, those that include lots of quick canned things for nights you can’t make it all from scratch.)
Slow cooker meals like a vegan chilli are easy to make in big batches and freeze well.